Patience really is one of the virtues. However, it takes a lot of work to develop. This is especially true if you’re accustomed to having a short fuse.
It’s possible to develop patience in as little as one week. So if there’s an event coming up that may test your patience, you can learn how to keep things under control quickly.
It may not be easy, but the benefits are certainly worth working towards. You can develop the tolerance and calmness needed to take on the toughest situations.
Consider these strategies when seeking more patience:
1. Help out with a charity. Subjecting yourself to the conditions of the less fortunate works. Helping others is a good way for you to recognize how blessed you are. Seeing their trials quickly makes you realize you can stop worrying about half the things you worry about.
• There are lots of facilities for homeless kids and terminally ill adults. Give yourself the opportunity to experience life through their eyes.
• Impatience is the last thing on their minds. Their focus is on enjoying every moment of life given to them.
• Take note of how you feel after spending time with them. If your conscience is burdened by your past reactions, you’re on the right track.
2. Dedicate to meditate. Meditation takes you back to your natural self. You’ll be better able to deal with challenging situations when you start off at a neutral place.
• Meditation helps to build a calm spirit and focused mind, which will help you to develop patience.
• Structured meditation can take the form of a yoga or tai chi class. Get the help of professional spiritualists to help build your base of spiritual calmness.
• Meditation can also be achieved in your quiet space at home. Take 10 minutes away from the activities around you. Just close your eyes, block out the noise around you, and breathe.
3. Make patience your goal. Every day for a week, make patience your only goal. Sure, you’ll want to get things done during the day. Tell yourself that you’ll only proceed to do something if you can respond with patience.
• As you open your eyes each morning, reaffirm your commitment to being patient. Committing to it each day can make it habit by the end of the week.
• When you’re making a conscious effort to stay composed, it can happen. True, it’s difficult, but completely possible.
4. Think before speaking. This particular step may cause things to progress slower than is ideal. Taking the time to process your response before opening your mouth guarantees a soft answer. And guess what? A soft answer sets the tone for a civil discussion.
• Consider how it would feel being in the other person’s shoes. How do you think your reactive nature affects others? Give that some thought each time you’re about to react.
• Avoid being the reactive person in the room. Take the time to process your thoughts and ideas. That way, you may even end up with a smarter response.
Patience sometimes seems like a fleeting possibility. But it can actually be an accomplishment for a lifetime. Give yourself the chance to experience the peace of mind that comes with patience.
Your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness all benefit when you practice patience. And the great part is that there’s no need for therapy in order to develop it.
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