Mothers who took on burdensome caregiving roles as children, and weren’t allowed to just “be kids”, tend to be less sensitive to their own children’s needs, according to new research.
The findings suggest these parents do not understand appropriate child development and end up parenting in a similar harmful manner in which they were raised. Lead author Amy K. Nuttall, assistant professor in Michigan State University’s department of human development and family studies, says:
“If your childhood was defined by parents expecting you to perform too much caregiving without giving you the chance to develop your own self-identity, that might lead to confusion about appropriate expectations for children and less accurate knowledge of their developmental limitations and needs as infants
If mothers don’t understand their children’s needs, they’re not able to respond to them appropriately.”
Burdensome, adult-like caregiving, or “parentification,” can involve routine parenting and disciplining of one’s siblings, excessive chores and responsibilities around the house, and serving as the main emotional support system for parents.
For the study, researchers surveyed 374 pregnant women from low-income households in four US cities about their upbringing. After birth, the mothers’ parenting techniques were observed several times during an 18-month period.
Mothers who engaged in excessive, adult-like caregiving as children were less likely to respond warmly and positively to their infant’s needs and interests and to put their child’s need for exploration and independence over their own agenda.
A previous study led by Nuttall found the children of mothers who engaged in excessive caregiving during childhood went on to display behavioral problems. Together, the studies have important implications for developing parent-education programs for mothers who were overburdened by caregiving roles in childhood.
Nuttall says instruction about infant development might be best served in prenatal classes. Women are more likely to attend prenatal classes than parenting classes offered after birth:
“Prenatal parenting classes may be particularly useful for teaching accurate knowledge of child development and appropriate expectations about children’s abilities even before mothers give birth and begin parenting.”
Nuttall, Amy K.; Valentino, Kristin; Wang, Lijuan; Lefever, Jennifer Burke; Borkowski, John G
Maternal History of Parentification and Warm Responsiveness: The Mediating Role of Knowledge of Infant Development
Journal of Family Psychology, Aug 3 , 2015
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